There are walks of life where one is required to argue.
Lawyers, politicians and teachers are frequently in positions where they must argue persuasively for one position or another. That is part and parcel of their job, and arguing serves the valuable service of allowing the truth to stand out in contrast to error or ignorance. In many areas of life, however, arguing serves no useful purpose and just creates needless strife and division. When people are making casual conversation it is easy to find things to disagree with, but such disagreements rarely foster peace and harmony. It is tedious to be around someone who is always correcting us. With family, friends, and co-workers it is usually better to find areas of mutual agreement rather than disagreement. And even when there is disagreement, sometimes the way to resolve the issue is to start with what you agree on and see if you can move on from there. When we must argue, it can usually be done calmly and with civility. Sometimes we find ourselves drifting into argument without realizing how this even happened. Someone may have said something that we feel must be challenged. As the discussion turns from mild difference of opinion to angry disagreement, our tempers flare and we often say things we will regret. By being less argumentative you will probably find that you get along with others much better. – Christopher Simon
“It is to one’s honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel.”
—Proverbs 20:3 NIV